F A Q s
Many people have similar questions so to save all of us time I have created
the following general questions and answers from real life conversations. I
hope they are helpful to you.
FAQ # A
"What kind of people participate in these relationships and get togethers?"
My experience overall has been that the couples involved in the DWC lifestyle
have been especially pleasant, good natured people. By far the majority are
professional people and successful business people.
A few of the occupations I have encountered inlcude: Corporate Executives and
Managers, Teachers and Professors (and a school principal), Lawyers, Judges,
Small Business Owners, of course Housewives, Artists, Musicians, Police
Professionals, Real Estate Agents, Engineers, and Mental Health Professionals.
This is a genuine and accurate description of people I have met who benefit
from the DWC lifestyle.
FAQ # B
"Will letting other women spank my husband lead to temptation or involvement
outside the marriage?"
In my experience the men who participate in the DWC lifestyle tend to be far
more devoted and committed to their partners than in the average relationship.
I often see and hear the heartfelt, deep appreciation they have for their
women. Many of the men I hear from desperately want their wives to be
involved in the DWC lifestyle and many others want very much to participate in
expanded spanking related social activities.
I am pointing out that usually the men are grateful for that kind of
disciplinary attention. If their wives eventually join into the full spirit of
it and go to an occasional party with them it is also not usually taken for
If you feel insecure in your relationship, or there is a real problem, trouble
could happen anywhere. I am not promising that DWC activities are either a
cure for problems or a guarantee against them. I will say sincerely that for
some men this is more than a whim or a preference, it is a need. If that is
the case in your relationship, think carefully when you decide what you are
and are not willing to try.
FAQ # C
"What is in it for me if I attend to my husband's disciplinary needs?"
In my home I expect to always be treated with respect and thoughtfulness.
That is the basis of the whole relationship. Your home should be the same
way. Good old fashioned spanking goes a long way to help men become sweeter
and more considerate. But, you should not have to specifically request nice
things or spend too much of your time "enforcing good behavior". Your husband
should, and probably will be, motivated to please you in any way he can.
Make no mistake about this. EVERY DAY I get letters from men who want to get
their wives to spank and discipline them. I always answer the same way. I
tell them that first they need to change their mindset and instead of thinking
about getting their needs or fantasy fulfilled they should spend all of that
energy figuring out what ever it takes to bring their wives happiness and
This is not a one time event. This is meant to be the beginning of a
permanent attitude change. My advice to them is that once they succeed in
making their wives understand that they are sincerely committed to her
happiness, with no strings attached, there is a much greater possibility that
she will be motivated to fulfill their special needs as well. The good news is
that loving attention by the husband is almost guaranteed to inspire the wife
to return that kind of energy. Spanking aside this is a powerful formula for
FAQ # 1
"I cannot get my wife interested in spanking me. I have asked her about it
several times but she doesn't seem willling or interested".
This is the most common thing I hear from men and I could go on and on about
it, but I will try to be brief.
First of all, let's look at the facts. Men in our culture are generally
raised with the idea that everything should be done for them, or some
variation on that theme. But they also realize that is the definition of a
Brat! That is why the best of them acknowledge and ask for spanking. Too bad
they will never change enough to the point that they no longer require
over-the-knee reminders of this. The problem is that men who feel thus
entitled can be overly insistent and demanding about their spanking desires.
There is not one simple solution but I see it as all about relationships.
Men, you must first and foremost work on your attitude of entitlement.
Commit privately to make an attitude change within yourself to one where your
goal is to please your partner. If you can make the shift, on a long term
basis, to putting her needs, wishes and desires first (that means before
yours), you might be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.
Communication is the basis of relationship. No one likes to be blamed, put
down, ignored or in any way made to feel less than her partner. Open
communication is a lot more than just telling her what You want. It is about
hearing and deeply feeling what she wants. Simply, you have to give to get in
If your partner is too "strictly moral" to get into spanking with you, the
above advice will still lead to a much happier time together. She might
become open enough to approve your occassional visit to a Pro and might over
time be willing to accompany you and learn a bit, who knows?
FAQ # 2
"I am willing to get into spankng my husband, but I don't know how to begin
or lack the confidence".
I have documents from a variety of sources on other parts of my web page
which might be helpful to you. Look under
"Tips and Methods"
Attitude is the whole thing in spanking a man. You can work on improving
your techniques over time, but you have to start with the right attitude.
Think about it. How many times and in how many ways has he shown you that he
is basically a spoiled brat, little boy, in a grown mans body? A million, two
million? That's what you are dealing with and if our world wasn't so
confused it would be normal for the woman of the house to wield the moral
authority and the hairbrush without a second thought.
You will eventually be able to take him up on what he is asking for and
without hesitation order him to take his spankings. Do not worry about how
much it hurts his bottom. Just leave that out of your mind and be sure to
always spank him quite soundly. He may complain, but hey, that's what he has
been asking for. If he complains, give him some extra.
Most of all, be patient with yourself. Don't get into judging "your
performance". He is lucky to have you give him this kind of attention and
what ever you do with him is A-OK and be sure he thanks you every time.
Don't get overly concerned about matching his long held fantasies, just
get him across your knee or how ever you like to do it and spank the
insolence out of him until you have a sweet, pleasant man in your home.
FAQ # 3
"Is it best to reserve all spanking for disciplinary purposes in a DWC home?"
Oh, I hope not! While our theme is indeed proper discipline by wives, we are
all about having fun and good times. Even the creation of a DWC home should
be desirable for both parties. In reality, most of us love to do role plays,
creative scenarios, or just have a spanking session for no reason other than
"general principles", such as "you must have gotten away with more than I'll
ever know, so into the bedroom with you".
On occasion we will attend a party where there is more likely to just be a
lot of spanking going on with only very occasional role playing.